Jenks Hypnosis and Training Center, LLC
805 N. Fir, Jenks, OK 74037 (918)
Located in Jenks, America, near the heart of south Tulsa
Stress and its management
When you hear the word “stress” what comes to
For many of us it is the thought of our daily grind; the
pressures that are put on us by managers, customers, family,
friends, …and ourselves.
Stress is a part of our lives. Actually, it is a necessary
part of our lives. Stress is the motivating force that moves
our lives along. It is that little part of us that pushes us
on to the next step. And when that particular task is done we
feel the relaxation of the stress along with the satisfaction
of a job well done.
The problem comes along when the stress, or motivating
force, stays with us. This may happen if there are several
tasks to be done at the same time, and by the time one task
finishes another comes along. Or there may just be one long
task with a lot of pressure to get it done. With some people
the outside pressure is not nearly as great as the feelings
inside. In fact, many people are much tougher on themselves
than any outside stress.
Stress causes our body to energize itself for action. It
expects to carry out those actions and then to rest. When we
don’t get the rest but just get more stress
(energizing), our muscles tend to get tired of the tension
they are holding. After a while they will get cramped and
sore and we feel it as a headache, or soreness in our back or
shoulders, or other symptoms.
You will notice that I said “management” and not
“elimination” or even “relief” of
stress. We need and want some stress to keep us going and
achieving, but we need to get rest fairly often so we will
have the energy and stamina to utilize that boost which the
stress gives us.
So, managing stress means to get the rest and relaxation at
appropriate times such that we can continue to accomplish our
goals in our daily lives.
How can you accomplish this? The secret is to pay attention
to what your body is telling you. When your body says that it
is time to rest, then put down your (metaphorical) load and
(metaphorically) sit down.
There are many people who can help you to schedule your time
or organize your work to be more efficient so that you will
have time to take breaks from your work. Learn from them. But
don’t use that extra time to schedule in more work!
What you can learn from a hypnotherapist is how to REALLY
RELAX. You can also learn to PAY ATTENTION to your body for
signals that it is building up the results of stress.
Many people find it very difficult to really relax their
muscles consciously. Our body has a special way of keeping us
ready for movement almost instantaneously. It does this by
keeping a slight bit of tension in our muscles that only
actually relaxes when we go to sleep. Since each muscle keeps
a little tension, the offsetting muscles cancel each other
out and the net effect is no movement of the limbs. As soon
as the brain commands a change in position, the contraction
of the appropriate muscle is increased by the proper amount
and the movement occurs. But, since this muscle tension or
tone is controlled by the subconscious, it can be very
difficult to overcome and let the muscles actually relax
One of the devious things that stress does to us is that it
often increases this unconscious tension in the muscles. And,
since it increases both muscles in a pair by the same amount,
no movement occurs. So, we do not notice any change in the
muscles. But that tension – contraction – in the
muscles continues until the stress lessens and allows the
muscles, both of them, to relax back to their normal level.
If the muscles maintain their tension for too long they will
start to complain (hurt).
Certain muscle groups in our body are required to maintain
more tension normally than others. One of those areas is the
neck. It is necessary to hold up the head and to move it
often. When the stress increases and the tension increases,
that increase often occurs in the neck muscles. The shoulders
are not far behind when it comes to holding stress.
Hypnosis is a state of focused attention. Relaxation is not
required for the state to occur, but deep relaxation is often
associated with hypnosis. One reason for this is that if
suggestions for relaxation are used during an induction, the
person can feel when those suggestions are being accepted by
the subconscious. They can feel the relaxation and know they
are going into the hypnotic state. But the best reason, and
not a very technical one, is that it feels really good to
achieve that deep relaxation.
Perhaps the reason that hypnotic relaxation feels so good is
that it is a deep relaxation in both muscles of all of those
muscle groups as discussed above. This is also why the body
feels so heavy during hypnosis for many people. The slight
tension is gone and the muscles have to receive a more
complete contraction signal from the brain before a body
movement can occur.
Now, this amount of relaxation normally happens only when
the person is asleep – unconscious – and so the
average person never experiences this amount of relaxation
consciously. So they have no standard of relaxation to
When you know what deep relaxation feels like, you know what
your goal is when doing your stress management.
A part of stress management will often be to teach
self-hypnosis. Hypnosis is a natural state but we learn to
achieve and maintain the deeper, working levels used in
hypnotherapy. Once a person has experienced the deeper,
working levels of hypnosis, he can easily learn to reenter
those levels using signals he can give to himself. One of the
easiest trance phenomena to re-experience is deep
There are many other signals that can be set up which will
trigger a relaxation of the muscles, or perhaps only a
certain troublesome group of muscles.
Awareness of tension
The real challenge in any program to manage stress is
learning to become aware of it as it is happening. Each and
every person is different and must learn for himself how to
recognize the stress tension building up in his body. And
then when the stress tension is recognized, that person must
utilize a relaxation strategy to relieve that tension.
The amount of muscle tension or tightness in a
person’s shoulders and neck can be gauged when they
really turn their attention to those muscles. This is
especially true if the person knows what it feels like to be
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I was having trouble with my blood pressure and stress when
I was referred to Jenks Hypnosis Center. Ms. Reno did a great
job. I have referred several people to her.
Kerry W., Tulsa